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Find one small thing that you can do on your next date to start the process of slowly breaking the pattern. Give yourself time and space to figure out who you are, and then, step by step, start to share it with others.
It can be very difficult to ask your partner intimate questions or to get to know areas of their life that is personal. Especially to someone you just met, who you like and who has the power to hurt or reject you. Your brain will work against you. This is why we often make clumsy mistakes that would never happen otherwise when we feel nervous. But if you try to fight it, it will get worse.
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Intimate questions to ask your partner A list of intimate questions you can ask your partner to help you to figure out how your partner thinks and feel about intimate and personal matters. The whole point of going on a date is to get to know someone else, not to think about you.
Maybe for you it's about expressing your opinions more clearly, or your emotions. The more dates you go on, the more comfortable you will become. It's a counterproductive instruction.
The effort gets in the way. Choose something that makes you feel challenged but not scared, practice it and see the difference. Being curious and present, and immersing yourself in the moment, are great ways to get out of your own head. It creates a downward spiral.
Instead, trust your ability do so without thinking about it. Don't get in the way of automatic skills like using your hands, constructing sentences and making eye contact. Be brave and ask those intimate questions now to safe yourself from heartache later. And I get it, it really might feel like an encouraging thing to say.